Reading this blog some of you might be wondering “when do we get to the bit with the f*cking in it?”. Fair point. “Probably in a good few months yet” would be the reply.
Tiny chisel, tiny hammer, chip, chip, chip… slowly, slowly taking shape. Another tiny chisel is being added because today I’ve decided to start doing lunchtime non-game confidence-building approaches. This means just walking up and saying non-gamey stuff to people, even for a single sentence:
- Have you got the time?
- Can you tell me where the DLR station is please?
- Is there a bookshop round here?
Worthless coin for all you PUAs with more than a few months experience but for me it’s still worth collecting it and melting it down for scrap. The way I see it is that hestiation in doing the above comes from a similar place to AA. So if I feel ANY hesitation doing the above then if I do it and remove that hesitation then that is another tiny, tiny, tiny piece of my AA gone. Once that provides no challenge anymore then move up a level. Repeat.
I was outside this lunchtime, it was sunny and there were people everywhere. I spotted a cute Indian girl sitting alone. I went up and asked some crappy question about where the DLR was. Fine. No hook. Didn’t need one. Walked around a bit. Asked someone else the same thing. Asked someone else the time. Then I find my state rising. I’m starting to think “mmmm I need a proper set here”. Interesting. Pretty much going back to my Impromptu Daygame post in that approaching anyone builds state, and that even deliberately non-hooking, boring, openers build state. So maybe this is the way it will go: five warm up sets and one real one?
The result of this is I’ve decided to start doing five or so approaches a day at lunchtimes, but just boring non-gamey ones. I’m sure it will have a benefit. If I get in state I might even do a real one.
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